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May 31st, 2005

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This evening, after a long day of depleting my remaining card stock from my schmancy new case from Kat (it's PINK! And RETRO!) I wasn't feeling very sociable or chatty, especially not in French, which I had been talking all day. Which might be why I did not have the best time at Paris blogue t'il? a blogmeet for bloggers in Paris.

The event took place at l'Entrepot, a fabby cool chic cinema/restaurant/bar/meeting space place in the 14th, and about 130 bloggers had signed up (with many more expected), from the wee, puny personals, to the heavyweight creme de la creme with bookdeals. Everyone seemed to know each other.

In such situations I'm normally very very able to breeze into any conversation and a) hijack it for my own purposes and/or b) meet everyone in the circle. This evening, partly because I was a bit sick of "new people" from the salon, but also partly for other reasons, this did not occur.

I spoke to a few people, but (with a few exceptions) their questions were "what is your subject that you blog about?" and "what is your readership?" Perfectly reasonable questions, and if I had a particular subject or a ton of readers I would probably not have felt such a tool. However, for the first time since I was about 17 (note: last time I lived in Britain), I felt out of place. Like I did not belong. It was like revenge of the nerds.

Of course, this is nobody's fault but my own. Not just because of my bad mood. These people meant well, but the fact of the matter is, I'm a bit insecure about how very very very insignificant my blog is. Being a total Hermione Granger (gotta be the best...) that is.

It takes a certain amount of balls and ego to be a blogger. It's necessary healthy ego, not crazy dictator ego. One has to be totally unashamed about asking people much more widely read than you to link to you, and one has to do all one can to promote one's blog name.

I do neither of these things. My own personal blog ethics code of conduct (and intrinsic circa 1901 Britishness) means I consider this fairly vulgar behavior: pushy and (sorry) American. I took the decision to not comment on somebody's blog unless I was actually prompted to respond to what they wrote, and even then to have a pseudonym for commenting on non-expat blogs (eagle-eyed readers who know my real name and what British political blogs I frequent will discern this.) I also decided not to link to anyone unless I read their blog regularly. Almost unheard of in blogoland. Also unheard of was my decision to not ask for links back to me, and wait for them to come from people who read my blog.

All very noble, but now my inner teenager, never very far beneath the surface, is stamping her foot and saying "I want more readers NOW" in response to meeting people much more popular than me. It's ok that they are, I just want a piece of the pie.

So, not for the last time in my projected career, I am asking myself, integrity, or popularity?

I thought about why I started this blog, to keep friends and family up to date with what was happening in my life, and how it necessarily changed into something more public and more anonymous as I had a minor brush with an underrepresented ethno-religious group, and about how it became a way to practice the discipline of writing something (fairly) structured (nearly) every day. I thought about how, if I really want to make something of this blog, I have to be shameless and unrelenting in pursuing readers and exposure, and how I have to shape it up, redesign it, post every day RELIGIOUSLY, and take the damn thing seriously.

Then I thought, nah, fuck it, that's too much like hard work. Bugger integrity, I'm just lazy.

UPDATE: Of course, having just written this, I discover that a comment of mine over at EU Rota has been quoted in full as a post. Am glowing. Pinkly. Have the necessary ego for blogging it seems.

UPDATE 2: Almost simultaneously, I was asked to write a guest article for a group blog on politics on the strength of comments alone. *Blush* and *egomaniacal giggle.*

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Ann (guest)

Comment posted on July 28th, 2006 at 03:08 PM
Hi,

Please call me at 301-760-8211. I'd love to hear from you.

Thanks. Ann

Inactuafact (guest)

Comment posted on June 2nd, 2005 at 11:40 PM
I've (without wanting to sound too crawling) seen quite a few of your comments, er, positively commented upon....
Comment posted on June 1st, 2005 at 09:26 PM
You don't need to ask you all these questions about your blog, and you only needed to answer that you've got a personal blog.

Nevertheless, hope you had a nice time.
Benoit

Leslie (guest)

Comment posted on June 1st, 2005 at 06:22 PM
Life is a continual swing between feeling really good and feeling really bad. I once saw this episode of Star Trek (I know, I know) where they encountered this race of people (aliens?) who were 'born' into old age and they got younger as the years went by until they turned into babies and then disappeared. I wonder, if our race was like that, if the inner teenager would disappear? What would the world be like without insecurity?

Melanie (guest)

Comment posted on June 1st, 2005 at 04:04 PM
I'm back! School is out for the summer and I have free time again, to write, to read, to shop, etc! So I wanted to begin by showering you with my love. XOXOXO
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